Thursday, September 29, 2011

Apabila Kristian Berbicara Pasal Hudud

Itu dia... kalau orang bukan Islam pon tahu pasal HUDUD sampai boleh berbicara.... jangan sampai kita dimalukan kerana kejahilan dak sikap tanak ambil tahu kita.... Snapshot ini diambil dari sahabat yang berkongsi di Fb, ia maybe dibuat oleh orang kita juga untuk perli sini terhadap sikap kita. Tapi tak mengapa yang penting message yang ingin disampaikan tu lagi penting. :)-
 Jadi sekarang ni kita kat mana? kita pura2 tanak fahami hudud sebab kita tak tahu atau sebab kita ni jenis anti Islam tanpa kita sedari? Ini bukan soal politik PAS, BN, PR, PKR ke ape.. Ini soal akidah kita, yang paling daif sekali ialah kita kene paham, hudud itu undang2 dari Allah dan kita wajib percaya dan terima n amalkan.
Jangan disebabkan kita dikaburi oleh media massa, kita jadi tak ambil tahu hakikat sebenar hudud. Kalau Kristian pun boleh faham hudud, takkan kita org Islam takle nak faham? dah brape lama hidup sebagai orang Islam? Fikir-fikirkanlah....

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Video Kisah Bagaimana Wardina Safiyyah Mendapat Hidayah

Alhamdulillah makin ramai artis mendapat hidayah. Sempena bulan Ramadhan ini, TenangSudey akan berkongsi video mengenai kisah penghijrahan Wardina Safiyyah ke arah yang lebih dan lebih islamik. Alhamdulillah..

Friday, July 15, 2011

HOW TO BE A SUCCESSFUL HUSBAND!

1. Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquillity) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE.


2. When you go home say ‘Assalamualaikum. ’ (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of your home!


3. Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel that’s fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.


4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as it’s a type of slandering.


5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED


6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.


7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said if you are angry, sit down, if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!


8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!


9. Don’t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed – sallallahu alaihi wa sallam (SAW means “May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him” (Muhammad).) said ‘I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife’. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.


10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER


11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said ‘When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst themselves’.


12. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said to call your wives with the best name, any name she loves to hear. Prophet Mohammed sallallahu alaihi wa sallam called Aisha ‘ya Aish’ as an endearment.


13. Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her one out of the blue. It will grow the love in her heart.


14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said the tongue will throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!


15. All of us have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put barakat in your marriage.


16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.


17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.


18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.


19. In front of her relative praise her. Confirm/ realize that she is wonderful, and that she is a good person in front of her family.


20. Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said gifts increases love.


21. Get rid of the routine once in a while, surprise her with something, it will get rid of the rust and polish it!


22. Husnul zaan- We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse.


23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It was a practice of Ali (RA). It’s like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t save it in your memory!


24. Increase the drops of patience, especially when she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period.


25. Expect and respect her jealousy. Even Aisha (ra) used to get jealous.


26. Be humble. If your profession is good, respect that she is looking after your children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength is your strength, and her success is your success.


27. Don’t put your friends above your wife.


28. Help your wife at home. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his own clothes.


29. Help her respect your parents, you can’t force her to love them, but she can be helped to gradually love them.
30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife.


31. Remember your wife in your duaas. It will increase the love and protect it.


32. Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and grief. It’s not your business. The past is for Allah (swt).


33. Don’t try to show her that you are doing her a favour by doing something, like buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenance, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. It’s also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt)


34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person so he is the real enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office and asks the devils what they have done, some say i have made a person steal, or i have made someone drink etc. And one devil will say i have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the best job.


35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you.


36. Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shaitaan.


37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT’S A CHARITY.
38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn’t like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.


39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) ‘if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.’ It confirms prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.


40. Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.


41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success.


42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.


43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).


44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.


45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.


46. Let her know you are travelling. Don’t tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.


47. Don’t leave the house as soon as trouble brews.


48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.


49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc.


50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.


51. Allah( swt) said ‘live with your wives in kindness.’ Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.


52. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal!


53. When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.


54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.


55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam Get rid of this disease.


56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.


57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that your wife is a trust in your hand.


58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.


59. Accept her as she is. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.


60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Penerangan Jamak Dalam Kesuntukan Masa

Soalan: Boleh seseorang yang amat tertekan dengan kesuntukan masa, seperti peperiksaan menjamakkan solatnya?


Jawapan: Supaya tidak terkeliru, terlebih dahulu diterangkan maksud jamak. Iaitu menghimpunkan dua solat pada satu waktu. Solat-solat yang diizinkan syarak untuk dihimpunkan itu ialah, Zohor bersama Asr dan Maghrib bersama Isyak.

Adapun qasar bermaksud meringkaskan solat yang empat rakaat kepada dua rakaat. Qasar diizinkan untuk mereka yang bermusafir. Keizinan jamak lebih luas daripada keizinan qasar.

Di mana seseorang boleh menjamakkan solatnya sekalipun dia tidak bermusafir disebabkan keadaan-keadaan tertentu, tetapi dia tidak boleh menqasarkannya. Ertinya dalam keadaan tertentu dia boleh menunaikan solat Asr dalam waktu Zohor iaitu selepas ditunaikan empat rakaat Zohor, dia menunaikan pula empat rakaat Asr.

Demikian juga dia boleh melakukannya pada waktu Asr, dengan cara melewatkan Zohor. Begitu juga Maghrib dan Isyak. Dalam hadith yang diriwayatkan al-Imam Muslim, daripada Sa’id bin Jubair meriwayatkan daripada Ibn ‘Abbas, katanya:

صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ الظُّهْرَ وَالْعَصْرَ جَمِيعًا بِالْمَدِينَةِ فِي غَيْرِ خَوْفٍ وَلَا سَفَرٍ قَالَ أَبُو الزُّبَيْرِ فَسَأَلْتُ سَعِيدًا لِمَ فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَ سَأَلْتُ ابْنَ عَبَّاسٍ كَمَا سَأَلْتَنِي فَقَالَ أَرَادَ أَنْ لَا يُحْرِجَ أَحَدًا مِنْ أُمَّتِهِ
“Rasulullah s.a.w bersolat Zuhur dan ‘Asar secara jamak di Madinah tanpa sebab ketakutan atau musafir”. Kata Abu Zubair: “Aku bertanya Sa’id mengapa Rasulullah s.a.w berbuat demikian?”. Jawabnya: “Aku pun pernah bertanya Ibn ‘Abbas seperti mana engkau bertanyaku, jawab Ibn ‘Abbas: “Kerana baginda mahu agar umatnya tidak beban”.Dalam riwayat Muslim yang lain, lafaznya:
جَمَعَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بَيْنَ الظُّهْرِ وَالْعَصْرِ وَالْمَغْرِبِ وَالْعِشَاءِ بِالْمَدِينَةِ فِي غَيْرِ خَوْفٍ وَلَا مَطَرٍ   
“RasululLah s.a.w solat Zohor dan Asr, Maghrib dan Isyak secara jamak di Madinah tidak kerana ketakutan, juga tidak kerana hujan”.
Hadith-hadith yang seumpama ini memberi kesimpulan kepada para fuqaha (ulama fekah) bahawa solat jamak boleh dilakukan disebabkan keuzuran-keuzuran tertentu, seperti sakit yang menyusahkannya, atau hujan bagi mereka bersolat jamaah di masjid, kesempitan waktu dan seumpamanya.

Hal-hal ini seperti mereka yang sakit yang menyukarkannya berwuduk atau bergerak maka bolehlah dia menjamakkan solatnya. Mereka yang terlibat dalam urusan-urusan yang tidak dapat ditinggalkan seperti pembedahan, menjaga lalu lintas, mengendalikan urusan yang bahaya, atau peralatan yang bahaya, terlibat dengan peperiksaan yang telah ditetapkan. Demikian juga bagi wanita yang bermusafir dengan bas awam yang menyusahkannya bersolat di tengah perjalanan, maka dia boleh menjamakkan solat sejak di rumahnya, tanpa qasar.

Begitulah juga dengan semua keadaan yang menyukarkan seseorang. Namun hendaklah dia mengutamakan menunaikan solat berdasarkan waktunya terlebih dahulu, jika menyukarkan maka ketika itu diizin.

Kitab-kitab fekah penuh memuatkan masalah ini, terutamanya dalam mazhab al-Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal. Antara Ibn Taimiyyah dalam al-Fatawa al-Kubra (2/348, cetakan Dar al-Kutub al-‘Ilmiyyah, Beirut) dan kitab-kitab lain. Dr. Yusuf al-Qaradawi menyebut perkara ini dalam Fatwa Mu‘asarah (1/245, cetakan Dar Uli al-Nuha, Beirut).

Allah Lebih Mengetahui
Dr. Mohd Asri Zainul Abidin


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